I don’t know how the girls will feel about being twins the older they get. Will they resent it? Always vying for our attention in a way that is different from staggered siblings.
There is no top dog. No older sister who gets the bigger room or to stay up later.
There is no little sister to tag along on adventures with the older sister. To be snuck into a movie or hang out with the older kids.
They are equals, and they never let us forget it. They keep us honest. If one falls over and gets a kiss on the bumped body part the other one waves their undamaged body part for a kiss also. It’s not that they have psychic link and are both hurting, it’s just their built-in sense of what is fair.
There is a lot of snatching of toys/random house hold items which is a giant pain in the ass but there is also spontaneous sharing. No nagging needed, just fairness. Two biscuits on a plate – Zoey will pick up one for herself and give the other to Naomi (unprompted). Naomi sees Zoey is sad so she hands a toy over to her. Zoey finds their sweaters and will hand one to Naomi and force me to put it on her whether or not she wants it. I was in the bathroom with Naomi this morning and Zoey came in with two blankets.
If one is sitting on my lap then the other will use all their body weight to evict them. And, what can I do? They are equally matched weight wise, and both at the same developmental level. I try to explain and show that there is space for two on my lap. Two knees. But in their early toddler state this goes over their heads.
They are growing up always having someone else there. From the get go. They know no different. Should we be surprised that they never liked sleeping alone or being in a different room to us.
When I put Naomi in the bath first she points to the empty space that Zoey will soon inhabit and says “There”. When we got back from the nap walk today Zoey was still sleeping so Naomi stood next to her pointing until she woke up.
Greyfriars Bobby has nothing on these two.